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    Four Liberating Questions

    Four Liberating Questions

    By Tom Moon, MFT– Corey came to see me, consumed with hurt and rage. Two years ago, his partner Lyle, whom Corey said “was the love of my life,” abruptly…

    How Should We Speak to Each Other? Part 2: Focus on Needs, Not Judgments

    How Should We Speak to Each Other? Part 2: Focus on Needs, Not Judgments

    By Tom Moon, MFT In the last issue, I shared that the first step in practicing effective speech is to keep our eyes on the prize—to be constantly mindful of…

    Nonviolent Communication, Part 1

    Nonviolent Communication, Part 1

    By Tom Moon, MFT One of the many bad effects of the current regime in Washington is that it has accelerated an already alarming national trend toward political hate speech,…

    Vengeance Isn’t Sweet

    Vengeance Isn’t Sweet

    By Tom Moon, MFT Mike spent years building a business with his boyfriend, Dave. At first everything worked beautifully: the business grew exponentially and was soon more profitable than either…

    Fusers and Isolators

    Fusers and Isolators

    By Tom Moon, MFT Andy and Eddie have been together for eight years and have a deep love for each other. They rarely fight, and when they do, it’s usually…

    Standing in Love

    Standing in Love

    By Tom Moon, MFT “In this world there are only two tragedies; one is not getting what one wants, the other is getting it.” This line from Oscar Wilde reminds…

    What Makes It Hard to Forgive?

    What Makes It Hard to Forgive?

    By Tom Moon, MFT A few years ago, while speaking at a workshop on the subject of forgiveness, I asked how many people in the auditorium had never experienced deep…

    Some Grief Lasts a Lifetime

    Some Grief Lasts a Lifetime

    By Tom Moon, MFT Q: I was with Tim, the love of my life, for fifteen years. He died fifteen years ago this month. My years with him were the…

    The Most Frequently Asked Question

    The Most Frequently Asked Question

    By Tom Moon, MFT Q: I came here almost three years ago from a small town where there was no gay life. Maybe I was naïve, but I was sure…

    Is There Sex After Tina?

    Is There Sex After Tina?

    By Tom Moon, MFT Q: I stopped using crystal meth more than two years ago, and my sex life has never been the same since then. Crystal made sex awesome!…

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