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I Can’t Stop Wanting to Use Crystal Meth

I Can’t Stop Wanting to Use Crystal Meth

Tom Moon, MFT Q: I’ve been using crystal meth for years, and I know that I’m addicted to it. It’s hurting me mentally and physically. I lost a boyfriend because…

Reacting Isn’t Responding

Reacting Isn’t Responding

Tom Moon, MFT Are human beings basically good or bad? My colleague, neuropsychologist Rick Hanson, believes that science can answer this age-old question. He points out: “When the body is…

Accepting Vulnerability

Accepting Vulnerability

Ted was one of the few people of color in the small midwestern town where he grew up. He was also gay, and was targeted because of it even before he…

How Should We Speak to Each Other? Three Guidelines

How Should We Speak to Each Other? Three Guidelines

Tom Moon, MFT (Editor’s Note: This is the third and final article of the series, “How Should We Speak to Each Other?”) Rubin and his partner Alan, the couple I’ve…

How Should We Talk to Each Other? First Step: Remember Intentions

How Should We Talk to Each Other? First Step: Remember Intentions

Tom Moon, MFT Rubin and his partner Alan are trying to resuscitate their dying relationship by doing couples counseling. Rubin begins this week’s session with a long, angry monologue detailing…

My Pumpkin Spice Latte Syndrome

My Pumpkin Spice Latte Syndrome

My friend David recently told me, “My pumpkin spice latte syndrome is back.” He was referring to the fact that every year, just about the time his coffee shop starts…

Surviving Unrequited Love

Surviving Unrequited Love

By Tom Moon, MFT Q: I regularly see a man in a gay so­cial organization to which we both belong, and he pushes all my buttons. He is friendly to…

Injustice Collectors

Injustice Collectors

Some of the unhappiest people I’ve ever met are “injustice collectors,” an evocative phrase that most of us intuitively understand as soon as we hear it. Injustice collectors ruminate continually…

Automatic Thoughts

Automatic Thoughts

Henry unexpectedly came home from work two hours early. Instead of giving him a friendly greeting, his partner Andy glared at him in silence and walked away. Henry was confused…

Making Peace with the Past 1: REACHing for Forgiveness

Making Peace with the Past 1: REACHing for Forgiveness

It’s a truism that if we want to be happy in the present, we need to find some measure of acceptance and peace in relation to the pain and disappointments…

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