Whenever my friend Aaron finds himself lost in habitual and unproductive thoughts, he describes himself as “swimming in the river of blah blah.” Buddhists call this river papanca, or “mental…
In my last column I shared the startling finding, by couples researcher John Gottman, that fully 69% of the conflicts that couples have in relationships are never resolved. Relationships survive,…
After years of searching, you find “the one” and merge with each other in what seems like perfect love. But, after a little time passes, you begin to notice the…
Q: It got back to me in my office a while ago that my co-workers have a nickname for me – “Doormat Dan.” That hurt and embarrassed me, but I…
Q: I told my parents I was a lesbian ten years ago and have been with my wife for eight years. My parents refused to come to our wedding, and,…
The holiday spending orgy — with its images of frenzied “consumers” fighting and trampling each other to get their hands on all that great stuff they had to have —…
In every culture there are people and institutions that deliberately work to instill guilt in people. The reason is easy to understand. Those who feel guilty are easier to dominate,…
By Tom Moon, MFT One of the reasons that many people don’t get what they want out of life is that they’re not specific and clear with themselves about just…
By Tom Moon, MFT Many of the people I see in my therapy practice are now showing the characteristic signs of Seasonal Affective Disorder. SAD is depression that usually begins…
Since 1863, Thanksgiving Day has been set aside as a national holiday for expressing and celebrating our collective gratitude for our abundance. It’s perhaps an auspicious time to think about…
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