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    Fusers and Isolators

    Fusers and Isolators

    By Tom Moon, MFT Andy and Eddie have been together for eight years and have a deep love for each other. They rarely fight, and when they do, it’s usually…

    Standing in Love

    Standing in Love

    By Tom Moon, MFT “In this world there are only two tragedies; one is not getting what one wants, the other is getting it.” This line from Oscar Wilde reminds…

    What Makes It Hard to Forgive?

    What Makes It Hard to Forgive?

    By Tom Moon, MFT A few years ago, while speaking at a workshop on the subject of forgiveness, I asked how many people in the auditorium had never experienced deep…

    Some Grief Lasts a Lifetime

    Some Grief Lasts a Lifetime

    By Tom Moon, MFT Q: I was with Tim, the love of my life, for fifteen years. He died fifteen years ago this month. My years with him were the…

    The Most Frequently Asked Question

    The Most Frequently Asked Question

    By Tom Moon, MFT Q: I came here almost three years ago from a small town where there was no gay life. Maybe I was naïve, but I was sure…

    Is There Sex After Tina?

    Is There Sex After Tina?

    By Tom Moon, MFT Q: I stopped using crystal meth more than two years ago, and my sex life has never been the same since then. Crystal made sex awesome!…

    Twelve Habits of Happy People

    Twelve Habits of Happy People

    By Tom Moon, MFT Research shows that 50 percent of a person’s happiness level is genetically determined, 10 percent is affected by life circumstances and situation, and the remaining 40…

    Dysfunctional Family Roles: #4 The Mascot

    Dysfunctional Family Roles: #4 The Mascot

    By Tom Moon, MFT As I wrote in the first column in this series, dysfunctional families are characterized by abuse coupled with denial that any abuse is going on; by…

    Title Dysfunctional Family Roles: #2 The Scapegoat

    Title Dysfunctional Family Roles: #2 The Scapegoat

    By Tom Moon, MFT In the previous column, I described dysfunctional families as “characterized by abuse coupled with denial that any abuse is going on; by disrespect and violations of…

    Dysfunctional Family Roles: #1 The Hero

    Dysfunctional Family Roles: #1 The Hero

    By Tom Moon, MFT The phrase “dysfunctional family” may have become a cliché, but it does describe something real and all-too-common. Dysfunctional families are characterized by abuse coupled with denial…